A colonized society doesn’t just exploit men — it weaponizes them.
It turns their strength and desire into a tool for someone else’s profit, or destruction.
It redirects their anger, distorts their sexuality, and fractures their ability to protect the people and communities they love.
To decolonize as a man is to take your power back from systems that feed off your confusion, addiction, and exhaustion.
Here are eight ways to begin.
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1. Reclaim Your Sexuality From Systems That Profit Off Your Dysfunction
Colonized masculinity begins with hijacked sexuality.
Men are trained through pornography and culture from adolescence to equate arousal with gender based sexual violence, identity through domination, voyeurism, and adrenaline.
Decolonizing your sexuality means:
• detoxing from violent and degrading porn with unhealthy power dynamics
• learning desire without dissociation
•viewing sexual attraction outside of limited violent dehumanizing categories and tags (Asian, Teen, Etc.)
• reconnecting sexuality to intimacy instead of conquest
• unlearning scripts written to control you, not satisfy you
•deconstruct why sex words and curse words and degrading terms often look the same
•seek to be regulated in your nervous system and hold space to be regulating for women exiting trauma
•build a healthy relationship as the foundation for happy family
A healthy man’s sexuality is not outsourced to corporations or defined in tags.
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2. Rebuild Your Capacity for Intimacy and Presence
A colonized man is emotionally numb — not by nature, but by design.
He’s told connection is weakness and distance is strength.
Decolonizing means creating emotional fluency:
• identifying your feelings and feeling them without shutting down
• communicating without threat responses
• connecting without extraction or performance
• listening without defensiveness
Presence is the true masculine power — not control.
3. Reorient Your Anger Toward Systems, Not Women or the Vulnerable
In a sick society, male rage is intentionally misdirected.
Instead of moving upward toward the people who corrupted systems to hoard power, anger is redirected sideways:
• toward women
• toward children
• toward immigrants
• toward the poor
• toward each other
Decolonizing as a man means learning strategic anger:
• identifying the real source of exploitation
• refusing to harm people who are also harmed
• channeling strength toward justice, not domination
A decolonized man protects — he doesn’t punch down.
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4. Rebuild Your Nervous System From Fight/Flight to Steady Strength
Colonized men live in constant survival mode: overstimulated, underslept, hypersexualized, and chronically stressed and depleted.
This makes men easier to manipulate and less capable of clarity.
Decolonizing requires:
• deep rest
• nervous system regulation
• time away from screens
• reconnecting with silence, nature, and grounding
• detoxing from overstimulation and hypervigilance
A regulated man sees the world clearly — and cannot be easily controlled.
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5. Reclaim Your Time From Exploitative Work That Drains Your Life Force
Colonized masculinity glorifies:
• overwork
• self-sacrifice
• burnout
• emotional isolation
• dying for a job that would replace you tomorrow
•killing for a job that would kill you tomorrow
A healthy man reclaims his time as his own sovereign resource.
Decolonization looks like:
• financial literacy
• building skills that create autonomy
• rejecting identities built on labor exploitation
• choosing work that aligns with your values
A man who owns his time owns his life.
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6. Rebuild Brotherhood That Isn’t Based on Violence, Numbing, or Escapism
Male friendships in a colonized society are often shallow, competitive, or based on distraction — not truth.
A healthy man forms:
• deep male friendships
• accountability circles
• mentorship across generations
• community networks of support and purpose
You cannot decolonize alone.
Brotherhood is part of your infrastructure.
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7. Protect Women and Children Instead of Consuming Their Suffering
A colonized man is conditioned to see women and children as entertainment, outlets, or property.
A decolonized man becomes a guardian of life.
This means:
• refusing to participate in systems that sexualize harm
• using your physicality to protect, not intimidate
• treating women as allies, not adversaries
• supporting the emotional and physical safety of children
Your strength is meant for protection, not extraction.
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8. Build a Legacy Instead of Escaping Into Numbness
Colonized men are taught to chase distraction:
gaming, porn, hyperwork, substances, spectacle, war, anything but purpose.
Decolonization demands legacy.
Not in the capitalist sense — but in the human sense:
• a stable home
• a meaningful craft
• a family or chosen family you protect
• land, skills, knowledge
• community leadership
• internal consistency
A healthy man builds something that will outlive him.
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Decolonizing as a Man Is a Return to Your True Strength
Real masculinity is not domination.
It is agency, clarity, responsibility, protection, presence, and purpose.
To decolonize is to:
• reclaim your sexuality
• regulate your nervous system
• redirect your anger wisely
• build deep brotherhood
• establish boundaries with corrupt systems
• protect the vulnerable
• cultivate purpose and legacy
A decolonized man is not dangerous to women —
he’s dangerous to the systems that rely on male confusion to survive.
Ash's Journal 
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